Guys. Can we be real for just a minute? Let’s talk about marriage.
Matt and I have been married for 3 years in september. I was always told that the first year is the hardest. Wrong-o. Year number 3 has been our toughest yet. We stayed in the so-called “honeymoon stage” for a long time. Then life came and smacked us in the face. Some things happened with our families and with ourselves that was really difficult and we had to learn how to be ok together.
The other day I saw a quote about marriage:
Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day. - Barbara De Angelis
And sometimes that is so hard. We love each other - but we are still people with faults and issues. The hardest part is trying to find the balance between our wants and needs for ourself and our wants and needs for each other and the marriage. It’s so easy to be selfish. It’s so easy to expect that your partner is not giving you enough or that you’re doing all the work in the relationship
The reality is that a marriage is made up of both partners giving 100%. And sometimes that just doesn't happen. Sometimes you argue and you fight and it’s hard. And that’s okay. People tell you tips for when you do argue, and you should keep those in mind. But sometimes you don’t - and sometimes you need to be forgiven. That’s the beauty of marriage though… you still can love and forgive and move on, move forward, together!